Should You Be Coming Out To A Parent
Every gay person will face the option of coming out to parents at some stage during their lives. This will always be an emotional journey you embark on, so come prepared.
There is no sense in telling your parents you are gay if this only a feeling you are unsure of yourself. In such a case avoid unnecessary stress by rather asking them for help in getting your head around these feelings. They will understand as every person has these feelings at some stage.
In the case where you may be settled into the gay life and want the world to know; coming out may be necessary to allow you the freedom of an open gay life. Again, make sure you know what you feel before talking to your parents. Choosing the right time will make it a bit easier as well.
Support as in a lover or friend may not be a good idea, as this will cause your parents to react in a polite and untruthful manner. In many cases some parents immediately took aim at the lover and made him the party to blame for your decisions.
Do not expect your parents to shrug and carry on with their lives. You will find in most cases that they will tell you that they knew all along, but wanted you to tell them yourself. Expect emotional moments as they come to grips with this revelation.
First concerns are usually about gay people and the negative connection between their lifestyle and HIV Aids these people suffer under. This is a perfect time to talk openly about safe sex and show your self as responsible in this matter.
Remember that no church or religion may banish you because of who you are and should this be part of your coming out, treat the subject with care but do not get thrashed about this, God loves every person he made.
Agree to their terms and conditions as far as the rules they set where their house is concerned. Very few parents will throw open the doors to lovers, but given time, they will get to know your lover and before you know it he or she will get that personal invite to visit.
Be patient with yourself, your parents as well as the whole coming out process. Every one concerned will have a lot to think about and work through, so take care not force emotions and acceptance. Time will bring resolutions.
